Alternative inspiration

A caregiver’s blog led me to another Caregiver’s blog when he wrote: Whenever I am looking for alternative inspiration I read this blog.

https://parkinsonscaregivernet.wordpress.com/

Here are a couple excerpts from some of her entries.

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Less nagging – yes, I used the word nagging. Reminding. Warning (“don’t put your cup so close to the edge of the table”) Advising (“you need to use your walker”) Mentioning, emphasizing, etc. (Yes, I used the thesaurus!) Our loved ones will begin to tune us out when we talk too much. How about this – let’s talk less and do more. We can always walk over and move the cup away from the edge, and we can take the walker and put it in their hands without even saying a word. It may mean we have to DO more, but we can do it with a smile that promotes peace.

With decreasing cognition comes the loss of ability to reason, so we should not be surprised that our loved one is less able to cope with anxiety and frustration. That knowledge helps us understand the need to keep them from certain situations where those things might occur. We do this out of our love for them and self-preservation!

This is good…

Being an eternal optimist, I have always loved the story that is told of an African King who had a close friend with whom he grew up. The friend had a habit of looking at every situation that ever occurred in his life (positive or negative) and remarking, “This is good!”

One day the king and his friend were out on a hunting expedition. The friend would load and prepare the guns for the king. The friend had apparently done something wrong in preparing one of the guns, for after taking the gun from his friend, the king fired it and his thumb was blown off.

Examining the situation, the friend remarked as usual, “This is good!” To which the king replied – “No, this is not good!” and proceeded to send his friend to jail.

About a year later, the king was hunting in an area that he should have known to stay clear of. Cannibals captured him and took him to their village. They tied his hands, stacked some wood, set up a stake and bound him to the stake. As they came near to set fire to the wood, they noticed that the king was missing a thumb. Being superstitious, they never ate anyone who was less than whole. So untying the king, they sent him on his way.

As he returned home, he was reminded of the event that had taken his thumb and felt remorse for his treatment of his friend. He went immediately to the jail to speak with his friend. “You were right,” he said, “it was good that my thumb was blown off.” And he proceeded to tell the friend all that had just happened.

” And so, I am very sorry for sending you to jail for so long. It was bad for me to do this.” “No,” his friend replied, “This is good!” “What do you mean, ‘This is good’? How could it be good that I sent my friend to jail for a year?” “If I had not been in jail, I would have been with you, and not here with you right now.”

Although my words may not be ‘this is good’… my blog is an attempt to make lemon-aid from the lemons/(diagnosis) served. Although there may be some blogs about coping with Parkinson’s hosted by a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, my search did not reveal any. So, I have taken the challenge to share the results of my quest for positive encouraging information. It is my hope, as others diagnosed with Parkinson’s or their caregivers preview the index of previous posts offering insights into diet, recipies, exercise, symptoms, alternative and traditional therapies, stories, uplifting word and humor… they will say… ‘This is Good’