A sweet person on a group chat asked a question: “How do you make the transition to a nursing home?
I personally don’t think I need to worry about a nursing home to the end of my life, but things do happen. My mother promised her mother she would never put her into a nursing home… But after my mother had a disabling stroke, and she was total care for my father, he had no choice but to put his mother-in-law, Lola into a home. It was the best thing that could have happened, for Lola. She met other ladies she had things incommon with. they would sit together and knit, they watched the same soap operas. She was as happy as a duck in a puddle.
So, with that knowledge…I wanted to share some thoughts gleaned from the chat: and advice that I have put in bold.
At some point your relatives may want to settle you into a nursing home. Here are some of my ideas based on shared experiences. Can you think of more ideas?
What are the advantages of moving into a nursing home?
1. You won’t have to cook your own meals any more. Granted, institutional food is not as healthy or natural as what you might fix for yourself, but normally the meals & snacks are created by professional dietician and are balanced & varied.
2. You won’t have to clean house.
3. You won’t have to do laundry.
4. You will have physical therapy available.
5. You will have activities available.
6. You won’t have to remember when to take your meds.
This may seem like not worth the price of giving up your freedom, but in many ways it will give you more freedom to write, color, listen to music, get on the internet, look out the window, and be yourself.
Before you go, be sure to pack your activities
Additionally, be sure to mark your name on everything clearly with a permanent or laundry marker. Get a silver or gold marker to mark black things. Carve your name in some things with a knife tip, engraving tool or drimel, before you mark it; cellphone, chargers, laptop.
1. Your cellphone & charger.
2. Your laptop. (Check to make sure you will have internet access.)
3. Your coloring books & colors.
4. Your music & something to play it on – headphones or earbuds are best.
5. Address &/or phone books. If you have time, program them into the contacts in your smart phone or take a picture & save it on your laptop. Be sure to save it on Cloud or Google Drive so you will still have it if something happens to your device.
6. A warm coat, hat, muffler (scarf) & gloves in case you get to (or need to) go out in colder weather.
7. Lighter outer wear including a raincoat & rain hat for cool but not cold weather.
8. A week’s worth of warm clothes, spring or fall clothes, and summer clothes.
9. PJ’s or nightgown 3 or 3 & bathrobe & slippers – 2 each.
10. A good grabber for reaching things.
11. Paper & pens & pencils & pencil sharpener.
12. A small safe, hopefully with a setable combination lock, not a key. Set the combination to a number you can easily remember.
Things you will Not need:
2. Knick knacks
These may be hard for you to leave someday. Begin to eliminate what you can,. It helps to have pictures of favorite items. It also helps to bequeath them to a descendant who will value them. If not, sell them on Craig’s list & at least you will have the money for them.
Speaking of money, nursing homes are expensive. They often take the money from the sale of your home or property, so put the property in a relative’s name first and set up a bank account with a relative that does not have your name on it.
Pets – many nursing homes will allow 1 pet if you feed it and take care of letting it out to do its job yourself.