I figured out what I want to give.

For my grandchildren, I am going to type 24 stories from our experiences. This task will consume much of my time during the next month…or more. So, I may not post to my blog as frequently as I have in the past. So I am giving you, my dear readers an assignment: Start being kinder to yourself, following these four suggestions: Season’s Greetings

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‘Being kind to yourself is one of the best things you can do for yourself. But it’s also the one thing that is most often neglected or something that some people may feel guilty about doing.”

1. Speak To Yourself As You Would To Your Friends

“Before you speak, think it over: if you wouldn’t say it to any of your closest friends, don’t say it to yourself.”

“What you can do the next time you find wallowing in negative self-talk is to get a pen and paper, and draw a box with two rows and five columns. Label them: Thought, Emotion, Evidence, New Thought, and New Emotion.

“Break down your negative thoughts into each of the first three columns and formulate positive thoughts out of them. Repeat this exercise every day until you form the habit of stopping negative thinking in its tracks and replacing them with kinder ones.”

2. Exercise Mindfulness

“It’s not only negative self-talk that harms your inner being. Self-judgement also hurts your self-worth, even if you aren’t consciously doing it. You will become what you believe you are.”

“Mindfulness exercises help you defeat these thoughts of self-judgment and ideas of defeat and replace them with self-compassion.
Consider your thoughts and emotions without ruling them out as “good” or “bad”. Examine them with mindful awareness without judging it – don’t try to dismiss them, but don’t dwell on them either.”

“Feelings and thoughts come and go, and they change. Do not build your identity on these fleeting things. This too shall pass.”

3. Forgive Yourself

“You did the best you could with the cards you were dealt. The lessons you picked up from your mentors, your environment, your experiences, and your physical and mental health all influence the way you treat others and yourself.”

“Self-forgiveness isn’t making excuses or pretending you didn’t make a mistake. It means showing yourself compassion and recognizing that you’re only human. People all make mistakes, sometimes tragically huge ones. But the more important thing is making amends and avoiding the same mistakes in the future.”

4. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

“You may think you know someone from what you see on Facebook, but in reality, you really don’t know the whole story. People tend to use social media to show the idealized versions of their lives. Behind a perfectly manicured lawn are nightly fights between your old coworker and her husband. Behind extravagant trips around the world are piling credit card debts.”

“Don’t go down the rabbit hole of social media. Stop comparing yourself with other people. What you can do is un-follow people whose lives trigger strong negative emotions with you. You’re being kinder to yourself by removing these unrealistic benchmarks and redirect your focus on becoming a better person.”

From: Lisa Chan… written July 17, 2019

Author: suerosier

In May of 2018, I was diagnosed with Parkinson's. After researching, I believe the symptoms began to manifest themselves years prior to last year. The purpose for my blog is to share what I have learned (with an index) to save others time as they seek for answers about, symptoms, therapies [and alternative things to try], tools I use, Parkinsonisms, recipes, strategies, clinical studies, words of encouragement or just enjoy the photos or humor.

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